I reached the 7-month mark for my 25th year yesterday. This is the same day I read a blog post by my good friend, Julie, about 26 things she wants to do before she turns 27. Julie is an incredible artist and has the ability to be both bohemian and a pragmatist at the same time. She got married this year and bought a house with her new husband and has started to get quizzed about when she and her new hubby are going to have kids.
Her reaction to these new questionings was about the same as mine, which is to say, a bit of horror and queasiness at the same time. In all honesty I cannot wait to be a mom. I love the idea of kids and I love the idea of a family with Andy. But my chest tightens every time I think about these non-existent little ones and the impact they’ll have on my life.
My mom didn’t have me until she was 36 and in my mind I was always going to wait until my late 30s to have kids. Then I met Andy and my whole plan got radically shifted owing to the big age difference between us. Now we’re looking at about 6 years earlier than my mom, which means I could be poppin’ out a baby in 5 years.
For me, life feels like it will be split into two eras BK and AK (Before Kids and After Kids). AK feels like there are a lot great experiences that involve removing training wheels, school pageants, watching eyes widen at natural wonders, and teaching. It also feels like there will be a lot of tears by myself and the Ks, dirty hands, dirty cups, lots of clutter, screaming, and more unpleasantness. It when I think of stuff like that that I just want to put a steel-reinforced door on my uterus and keep it from ever happening.
But then I hold sweet babies and point out colors and think about Andy holding a baby and the giant wrecking ball comes in and takes out that steel-reinforced door. Good thing I have good insurance on it.
The BK era seems to be getting shorter, faster than it was just a few months ago and I’m starting to get anxious that my dreams of fabulous world travel and long, leisurely days of reading and cooking are fast disappearing. Though they already were because of the turn life has taken.
So in an effort to take back some control and feel like my goals are prevalent, I’m constructing my own X Before Y list, except since I’m more than halfway through my year, I’m making it less than half as long so I don’t lose my mind.
Here it is!
1. Organize my studio
2. Finish the painting I started for my mom’s 60th birthday
3. Teach a basic personal finance class
4. Make homemade froyo once a month
5. Read 4 personal finance books
6. Run another 5K
7. Create a quarterly newsletter for Artistic Financial Planning
8. Plan a vacation outside of Washington
9. Go through my closet
10. Meditate for a minute a day
Some of these will be easy to do (4, 5, 6, 9), while others will be a real doozy (10!!!!).
Do you have any X Before Y lists? Share something you’d like to accomplish before a major milestone.