So it’s no secret that I am truly head over heels for our favorite and most frequent guest poster Justus. She is such a creative soul and lives something of the life I want, full of creativity and love and good-heartedness. But I love that even though she lives what I think of as a beautiful life, she is also plagued with typical money issues. She and her husband are trying to pay down a lot of debt, mostly made up of student loans and her monthly blog postings about her debt repayments are my favorite to read.
Below she gives her take on the Three Paycheck Month (she spells it Paycheque cuz she’s Canadian. Adorbs), how she divvied it up with her husband and their efforts to communicate about money.
Back to more regular posting on Monday! Thanks for hanging in there.
This is why I started to laugh when Gabe suggested we use Monopoly money to figure out our financial obligations this month. For those of you who are familiar with a bi-weekly paycheque, you’ll be familiar with the Three Paycheque Month. I don’t know about you, but I await this month with anticipation because it’s “extra” money for us to toss down on debt, put into savings, or (to some degree) spend frivolously. Mint.com has given us an excellent tool with which to visualize our budget, but I’m still a hands-on, cash-based entity. Mint is limited in how much it can tell me because I work in different ways. That’s one of the hardest parts of a budget: communication. Money is so often imbued with emotion that it’s difficult to take a logical stance and maintain that objectivity in conversations. “I want” and “I need” are hard to define and tricky to express in a way that supports continued discussion, whether you’re working through a budget with yourself, with a financial planner, or with a partner. When it comes to a Three Paycheque Month getting priorities straight is important, especially when you’re tempted to stray from your regular path of responsible financing and go the route of excess and adventure. We decided to have it all and opted for wants, needs, excess, and adventure…through Monopoly money. Gabe pulled out the Monopoly board we have in the house (it’s actually Monopoly City, as regular Monopoly is banned…the City version is a loophole we have yet to close). This board features money in denominations we don’t possess, with the smallest bill being “10K,” so we ignored the K and worked with our options. Gabe counted out money equivalent to all of our paycheques for the month, both the ones we received and the ones we’re expecting (we also had Mint.com on our computer up at the same time), and put the money in a pile. From there we removed our regular bills: mortgage, debts, groceries, etc. This left us with a much diminished pile, but thanks to Three Paycheque Month and Gabe working a bit of overtime there was a significant amount left. Usually it would all be gone at this point and the conversation would be over. Let’s talk for a moment about excess and adventure. For a few months now we’ve been planning a trip to Disney World with my sister and her girlfriend. We have a budget of $2600 for the entire trip, with all the park passes, dog sitting, hotels, transportation, etc. included. Was this a priority over repaying our suffocating debt? In our case, yes. Having the Monopoly money in hand and seeing how much we could pay off if we chose to spend that money on debt instead of going gallivanting through Disney World made that decision more clear: the delay of debt freedom versus a family vacation. This isn’t a decision anyone could make for another person and comes down to what is more important to you—your values.
Those change, which is why conversations about budget is an ongoing, ever-changing dialogue. Budgets require constant check-ups, check-ins, revamps, and sometimes even Monopoly money. Whatever your system, giving yourself a means to articulate your needs is an essential, constant practice. Right now, we value one “family fun” trip over debt repayment that would get us out of debt two months sooner, which I actually found a bit surprising considering my consuming obsession with paying debt and getting out from under our 45,000+ point Beast. In the long run, though, those memories are more important to us than the few months we could have shaved off our debt repayment, and having that money in hand helped crystalize that for us. Besides, we would still make our regular debt payments for the month and we would still be on track. Whatever your technique, try to have a few options for communication available to you when you discuss your finances. What follows is a list of ideas we’ve used and loved (or hated) at various times in our ongoing financial dialogue: